How Sad Songs Can Ease Our Emotional Burden

Many of us turn to sad songs when we're feeling down, and surprisingly, these melodies can help us cope with our emotions. I share my personal experience of using sad music to navigate through difficult times, and delve into the psychological and physiological benefits of listening to songs that resonate with our feelings.

My Experience with Sad Music

During my teenage and early adult years, I went through significant family struggles that left me in a deep, dark place. I often found myself in what I called 'deep dark depression mode', where I would engage in what seemed like a therapy session with music. I would create a playlist of sad songs and go for walks, sometimes even walking for several miles until I felt the sadness lifting. On some nights, I would walk more than ten miles, but by the time I returned home, I would feel less burdened by my emotions.

How Music Alleviates Emotional Distress

When we experience real-life loss or empathize with another's pain, hormones such as prolactin and oxytocin are released in our bodies. These hormones help us cope with loss and pain by making us feel calmed, consoled, and supported. Listening to sad music can have a similar effect. Compositions that resonate with our emotions create a sense of connection and community, allowing us to feel less alone in our struggles.

Music as a Conduit for Emotional Release

Sad music serves as a conduit for emotional release. When you're feeling sad, holding onto those emotions can perpetuate the sadness. However, when you listen to music that encapsulates similar feelings, it can help release and process those emotions. This process is temporary, but it can bring a sense of relief and help you move forward.

Nostalgia and Past Happiness

Listening to sad music that is tied to a nostalgic past can also provide a reprieve. These songs can transport you back to a time of happiness, allowing you to relive those positive memories. While this reprieve is temporary, it can provide a brief respite from present sadness. The momentary happiness associated with these past memories can quickly be replaced by the current reality, but it still serves as a comforting balm.

The Dual Nature of Sad Songs

Sad music can be compared to alcohol or drugs in its effect. It provides a short-term emotional high, and this is why many of us find ourselves drawn to it again and again. However, it's important to note that listening to music isn't as harmful as consuming alcohol or drugs. Unlike these substances, there isn't a significant risk of addiction or physical harm, unless you choose to listen to music in a moronic fashion.

For those who have experienced deep sadness and find solace in sad songs, you are not alone. Music has the power to soothe our souls and provide a sense of connection, making us feel less isolated in our struggles. Whether you are dealing with personal losses, or simply seeking emotional comfort, sad songs can be a powerful tool in your emotional tool kit.