Navigating Bisexuality: A Guide for Teenage Boys
Hey, I'm 15 years old, male, and I'm questioning whether I might be bisexual. It's a confusing time, and I want to understand more about this. How do I figure it out for myself? How long should I explore before I can say with certainty that I am bisexual? Could this interest be a passing phase?
Understanding Bisexuality
There's a common notion that if you are attracted to more than one gender, you might be bisexual. While you may have a preference for one over the other, if the idea of being with someone of the same sex doesn't completely turn you off, you are likely bisexual. I remember questioning it a lot when I was younger, thinking it might be a phase that would come and go over the years. It wasn't until the past year that I finally accepted my feelings. Looking back, I can confidently say that it wasn't a phase for me; I just went through periods where I had no interest at all.
Exploring Your Feelings
It's important to experiment and explore your feelings at this stage. No one figures out these things in the same amount of time. Some people discover their sexuality later in life, while others do so at a young age. If you find yourself attracted to both males and females, chances are, you are bisexual. Some individuals may have a preference for one over the other, but if you are receptive to both genders, you are bi.
Just because you date both genders doesn't mean you're 'selling out.' You should do what feels right for you, and ignore all the noise and judgment from others. Many people, even those who identify as gay, don't come out until much later in life, well into their 40s and beyond. Remember, it's normal to have changing feelings and it might take time to figure out your true sexuality.
Labeling Yourself: A Caution
It's not necessarily healthy to put labels on yourself at such a young age. Bisexuality simply means you are attracted to people of more than one gender. You see both males and females as potential dating partners. At this stage, the best approach is to experiment, date different people, and see what fits for you. Just because one friend might label themselves as gay and remain consistent with that identity, it doesn't mean you should rush to label yourself. Everyone's journey is unique, and it's okay to take your time.
Conclusion
Exploring your sexuality is a normal and important part of growing up. It's okay to question and experiment. Remember, it doesn't have to be fully figured out in a short time. Take your time, be true to yourself, and cherish the journey of self-discovery.